BUGGER!!!!
I very much doubt the re-torque technique was responsible.
It is possible that the re-torque was done too late, in that the tension on the gasket had released enough prior to re-torque to have allowed a leak.
My fear is that you have a crack in one or other of the heads, because unless the gaskets are some piece of shit, I'd expect them to be sealing now they've been re-torqued and if there is still pressure in the water system, then it indicates that there is still combustion pressure getting in to the water system.
Your only hope is that the pressure in the water system and oil mixing was due to the re-torque needing to be done earlier and that the water system is now air locked and not functioning correctly as a consequence. To check this you need to make sure the water system is bled correctly and if that doesn't cure the pressurisation when cold, then I'm VERY SORRY to have to say that my money is on a cracked head. Does your type of engine have a rep for cracking heads by any chance?
BTW not skimming the heads and/or block should not have been needed unless there was some obvious reason for needing to do so, like the engine had been seriously over heated before or the surfaces were damaged and a lack of this work should not cause the problems you're experiencing.
The only other hope you have that's just sprung to mind is that either the head gasket/s were garbage and/or damaged prior to being fitted, either as supplied or during the fitting process.